I have been thinking lately about what it means to own your kindness (and unkindness). When we do something kind we hope that it will be recognized and admired. When we are unkind we are (hopefully) ashamed and we hide it so that people don’t know that we are capable of such unkindness. But what if we owned all of our “kindness” – the good and the bad?
Owning your kindness is easy. Being nice or helping someone else makes us feel good about ourselves. It’s taking responsibility when you’re unkind that is challenging. Human beings are not nice some times. That’s ok, it happens. Owning that unkindness and turning it into something positive is what we should all strive for. Recognizing that your behavior or thoughts are unkind is the first step. This can be as simple as realizing when you’re making a judgement about someone. We are humans, and we are making assumptions and judgements about other people every day. But what if we took those thoughts and turned them into something positive?
Here’s an idea. Next time you find yourself making a judgement or having an unkind thought about someone…STOP. What if in that moment when you catch yourself, you think about that person in a kinder way, and you find something positive about them. That’s it. Done. You have owned your (un)kindness, and in turn, found the kindness in it. You can honestly say “I’m kinder than that”.
Today…this is what I ask of you, my friends. OWN your kindness…AND your unkindness. Change your thought process. Turn your judgements into kindness. Make an idea an action. Be Kinder Than That.